Friday, March 8, 2013

Looking ahead

Today I was reminded, again, of how I am forever blessed to be Jude's mother.  Not for any particular reason, but every time I picked him up today and got a smile and a quick kick of the legs and jabber of excitement, I felt a sense of love and calling for my role as mother to Jude.

Parenting a child with special needs can be tough and yet ever so rewarding.  In many ways parenting Jude is the same as the way in which I approach parenting our older boys.  Love is the focus.  One difference, however, manifests itself in my concern for his future- in the things still so far off.

The thing is, parents of children with special needs are constantly thinking about the future for their child.  It is out of necessity and survival.  How will Jude do tomorrow?  How will Jude do next month?  How will Jude manage in preschool?  High school?  I find my mind jumping from tomorrow to his senior prom to his first apartment at a moment's notice.

People often remind me not to focus too much on the future and work in the here and now, which I do, often.  The truth is though, as any parent of a child with special needs will tell you, looking ahead is a necessity; today paves the road for tomorrow.  This moment and future moments really cannot be viewed separately; our goals for Jude in the long-term hinge today on our actions in the short-term.

St. Jude: Pray for us.

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