Sunday, October 7, 2012

Take it on

I don't know how you do it, we'll hear people say  Usually it's from our peers, who like us are in their early years of marriage and parenting.  It's a generous compliment and one which we are not quite sure how to respond.  After all, there's no book that tells each parent exactly how to react to their own children. We just do, I guess.

I say it to others too though.  Friends who we've met recently through our school-aged kids have experienced the ultimate loss, that of a young child, and I still think, how do you do it?  Until you're in a situation of great challenge, no parent can answer this question.  And the fear on the other side of the question is typically could I be as strong?

From Jude's earliest days, my biggest fear was that of self-doubt.  Could I be strong enough to raise Jude to greatness?  There are times when it seems more appropriate to hang my head and cry out of fear and self-pity, but that's merely wasted time and tears.  So, a loving parent moves to take it on.

And this is how, I guess, a parent does it.  They take it on one loving day at a time.  If we thought through it too much more, it would likely be impossible.  But, if I've learned anything, it's that parental love can overcome any inadequacies left by fear and inexperience to take it on.

I wrote this for Jude and for myself, to know it's going to be okay.  To all parents, new or experienced, scared or secured, just approach it with love. 

St. Jude: Pray for us.